Although Swinging is often thought of as an activity for couples, many single people like to indulge too. Single ladies are almost always welcome to attend swingers parties, but often single men cannot attend. This is because many men want to get into the swinger lifestyle for the wrong reasons; they think it’s an easy way to get laid with no strings attached. If there were too many single men at a swingers club, not only would the balance be all wrong, but women may start to feel pressured or uncomfortable. Single women don’t pose this problem because many like to experiment or engage in sexual activities with the same sex, or join in with other couples. It usually works best to have even numbers of men and women or more women.
Some couples have a fantasy about having a threesome with another man; the woman might desire double penetration (anal and vaginal intercourse at the same time), or she may want to perform oral sex on one man while she has sexual intercourse with another. In other scenarios, the man may wish to watch his partner make love to another man. If you are planning to photograph or record any activity, make sure you have the consent of everyone involved first to avoid any awkwardness.
Sometimes, a man will not be present while his partner has sex with another man, then wants to be told about it afterwards or make love to his other half when she arrives home. Couples often like to video these encounters so that they can watch them together later.
Whichever is the case, swinging couples will require a single man to participate. If you are one of the men who think this is just an easy way to get sex, chances are the couple will see that you are not genuine and will not wish to go any further. Only get into the swingers scene if you understand and appreciate swinging, and you can relate to the couple’s reasons for doing it. Both members of the couple have to be completely comfortable with you before you engage in any sexual activity, so if you are in the slightest bit pushy, rude or impatient, you will not be invited again.
It’s very common for swingers to want to use protection with someone other than their partner – both for sexual intercourse and oral sex. If they ask you to wear a condom, respect that. They might even want to see a recent certificate from an STI test. Even if you think you’re clean, you must respect their wishes if you wish to participate.
Single men can enjoy swinging just as much as anyone else, but just make sure that you’re in it for the right reasons and you always respect the wishes of other swingers. It’s not a free ticket for sex! Don’t be offended if you can’t get an invite to swingers parties or clubs, it’s a very common rule not to allow single men, so it’s nothing personal.