People who have never been part of the modern swinging scene often have an inaccurate idea of what it’s really like. Two major stereotypes are the 1970s styled middle-aged parents partner swapping with their next door neighbours in the suburbs, or young and beautiful people having debauched parties with champagne flowing and lithe bodies grinding. In fact, both of these stereotypes do exist -- but there’s so much more to the swinger lifestyle. People who go to swingers parties come in all shapes and sizes, from different backgrounds, aged anywhere from 18 up to 80 if they’re lucky enough to still have an active sex life then! There really is no mould that a swinger fits into; it’s just a community or normal, like minded people who enjoy sex and pleasure.
Perhaps you’ve always fantasised about going to a swingers event but your body confidence has held you back; you might worry that you’re too short or overweight or hairy or skinny for anyone but your partner to be attracted to you. Self image is something that almost everyone struggles with on a regular basis: you’re not alone! Everyone has a part of their body that they’d like to change in some way, but true sexual confidence comes from within. Try not to let body hang ups stop you from taking a leap into the lifestyle; in fact, swinging does wonders for your body confidence and can give you a real boost!
If you are feeling shy about being naked in front of strangers, take it at your own pace. Agree some boundaries with your partner; maybe when you first go along you can just watch and stay clothed. As you become more comfortable and familiar with the environment, you may find you have the urge to strip off and get involved! There’s never any pressure, so dip a toe in the water and see how you feel. You’ll soon realise that these are all normal people with their own body hang ups, and when you see how sexy they are, you’ll hopefully start to realise that you don’t need to look like Brad Pitt or Megan Fox to have sex appeal. If you have a sex drive, you’re already half way there.
There are certain swingers events that have regulations for those applying, for example they may be exclusive particular age group; some paid events even advertise for ‘attractive couples only’ and require photos to be submitted in advance. You will always find elitists in any social group or network, but don’t let that intimidate you; there are all kinds of events out there. Some are casual, others more formal. Some are only for couples, others invite single ladies to join in the fun. If you want to be part of the swingers community, you will be welcomed with open arms (and hopefully legs)!
Local Swingers in Your State
We have new swingers joining everyday from across Australia, here you can browse members by State, just on a State name below: