Advice for new swingers about the lifestyle

For those who enjoy the lifestyle, swingers parties can be the highlight of your month. Whether it’s your first time attending or your fiftieth, you’re bound to feel those excited butterflies in your stomach in the days and hours leading up to the event. Those who are seasoned swingers probably know everything there is to know about getting ready for this type of party, but for the newbies, you might feel more confident about attending if you have some tips. Here’s our guide to getting ready for a swingers party.

The most important thing to consider before attending an type of meet or event in the swinger scene is personal hygiene. Have a bath or shower shortly before you go; even if you’ve had one that morning, the fast pace of city life or a stressful job can leave you smelling a little less than fresh. You might think ‘it doesn’t matter, I’m going to get hot and sweaty anyway...’, but imagine how you’d be put off by someone’s bad breath, body odour or stinky feet during an erotic experience. Unpleasant smells are an instant turn off (unless you have a specific fetish for them, which is not common within swinger communities). It’s very awkward for somebody to have to be the one to tell you that you smell a bit whiffy, and will undoubtedly make both of you feel uncomfortable to bring it up. Save them the red face and make sure you’re squeaky clean and smelling fresh when you arrive at the party. When you’re fresh from the shower, use an anti-perspirant deodorant as well as your usual perfume or aftershave; this will prevent body odour rather than just mask it. Also, brush your teeth thoroughly and use mouthwash, as there’s a high chance you’ll be doing some french kissing! If you suffer from halitosis, bring along a mini mouth-spray or mints so you can discreetly give yourself a minty fresh top up throughout the evening.

Think about your skin; do you feel more sexy when you shave and moisturise? Some men like to have a clean shave before attending swinger events to prevent giving the lovely ladies stubble rash. If you’re a man who’s nervous about unwanted body hair on your back or shoulders, try going for a wax at least 24 hours beforehand. It doesn’t make you effeminate in any way - in fact, it has become very popular amongst modern men and will make you feel more confident. Besides, you don’t have to tell anyone except your partner! If waxing sounds too painful for you, try a hair removal cream instead. The 24 hour time frame will eliminate the possibility or any redness on the affected areas. Don’t forget to trim your pubic hair too if you have quite a bush - not only will it make your penis look larger, but women will be more likely to offer you a blow job when there’s less risk or getting hairs stuck between their teeth! For the ladies, it’s up to you how you usually style your pubic hair (trimmed, bikini waxed, Brazilian or Hollywood), but make sure you’re on top of it before the party; you’ll want to look beautiful all over. Unless you prefer to go all natural, shave your legs and underarms too; many women feel sexiest when they’re smooth. It’s up to you if you want to use a scented moisturiser or bronzer; just follow the beauty routine that makes you feel the best.

Finally, there’s what to wear. Some swingers events have a dress code, so check this before you get ready; it could be black tie or fancy dress. If not, opt for something smart-casual, and something you think you look great in. An LBD (Little Black Dress) is always a hit for the ladies, and a crisp shirt on a man is irresitible to unbutton. Smart shoes are often preferred too. Although some parties provide them, take condoms and lubricant with you, just in case they aren’t available at the venue. It’s also sensible to carry cash for drinks and the cloakroom; there may not be an ATM nearby. Now you’re looking as sexy as you can be, go and have some naughty fun!