My wife and I have been Swingers for just over a year now, we’re not that active in the lifestyle as such but do like to keep up to date with the goings on in our community and from time to time attend the odd party. In the past, we’ve only swapped partners with other like minded couples and recently, my wife has mentioned that she’d like to have a sexual experience with another guy whilst I watch. This isn’t really anything new to me as we’ve been in 4-some situations before and I’ve seen my wife have sex with other guys countless times. This time though, she wants it just to be me, her and another guy. I’m not sure if she just wants me to watch or to join in – if the latter, I’m not sure how I’d go about joining in with another guy. Normally I have no male on male contact whatsoever and to be honest, I don’t think I want to.
If I’m being honest though, it’s not my own reservations about being with another guy that is troubling me, it’s more the feeling I have of seeing my wife with another guy whilst I’m not with another woman. When I’m with another woman I somehow find it acceptable, but if I’m in the situation where my wife is being fucked in front of me, I’m not sure how I will react.
My wife has also toyed with the idea of meeting a single male on her own, a direct meet without me present. I joked that if she can do that then I should be allowed to meet single females from the Swinger community also – she did agree to it, but I know it will be notoriously difficult for a single guy to meet a single female swinger. Especially ones who are our age. My wife I feel, will find it significantly easier.
I think going for the MMF experience is going to be the safest option, if it satisfies and pleases my wife I am all for it. I only hope it’s a one off and that our relationship doesn’t suffer as a result. Both as a man and wife and as swingers also. Swinging should be fun for us both and not for one party. I only hope we continue with our usual partner swapping activites afterwards.