Common Questions about Swinging:

How do I get started?

Firstly start slowly, join a well known site and most importantly talk to others about their experiences. There is no rush, take it slowly!

Will I find someone?

Meeting swingers is not like dating. There are very accepting and mostly there for the social aspects as well as the sex. As long as you’re polite and abide by the general swinger rules there are plenty of swingers to go around. Many sites also cater for disabled members too.

What type of person is a typical swinger?

Swingers come from all walks of life, professionals like doctors to grannies to road sweepers. All sorts of people decide to try the lifestyle and find others that fit with them, there is no set person that is typical. One thing they all share though is an open mind to sexuality and are not prejudiced towards others.

What will I do if people I know find out I’m a swinger?

Firstly, how are they going to find out that you are? To do so you’re going to either meet them on a site that you’re a member of which means they’re also a member too or you’re going to see them at a party! Either way it means you’re both swingers - who knows you might really hit it off! So try not to worry too much.

There are lots of sites out there for personal ads - how do I know which one to join?

Again, you need to take your time and chose a site thats right for you - Almost all of them are free to join initially although you might have to pay to answer messages or message other users. You want to make sure that the site has enough users to justify you joining and that you’re made welcome. Try popping into chat room on the site and see what happens. Do the moderators in there say hi, how are the other members, is it well policed? Do the message you get look real, is the forum busy? If the website has the functionality for other users to add each other as friends how networked with each other are they? Take your time, there is no rush!

What is the sexual orientation of swingers?

Its another common misconception that all swingers are bi-sexual. Many women aren’t bi, they are looking for straight sex with men. A good site should give the the sexual orientation clearly of both partners so you can chose easily who might suit you.

I’m a single guy, can I get into clubs?

Yes, although you might want to call ahead and check. Most clubs do allow single guys in without issue but many will limit numbers so there is a good ratio between couples, single females and males. After all, even if you’re a single guy you don’t want to be in the middle of a pork sword fight ;-)